I spent much of my life struggling with not feeling good enough and just trying to figure out how to love and accept myself. I studied with all the leading personal growth experts in the field for decades. I definitely made progress, but somehow that feeling of really being at home with myself and loving who I am continued to elude me.

Like so many of us, I found myself seeking that feeling of love and security in the arms of another, only to be disappointed time after time. Eventually, I realized that the love I wanted needed to come from within me first. I wanted to feel whole and complete within myself and not have my sense of self-esteem be derived from anyone else, so I waited until I was 38 years old to get married.

Finally, I thought, "Well, I guess I'm as ready as I'm going to be..." and I met and married a very nice man. About 7 years into our marriage, my initially sober husband relapsed into alcoholism and went into a severe depression. Holy hell! I had no idea how much I was still depending on him for my sense of security, to be my source of love and validation... until he imploded.

As painful as it was at the time, I'm actually grateful for that experience now because, with some good coaching support, I finally discovered how to give myself the love and approval I'd been seeking from others all my life. I learned how to show up as a powerful advocate for myself, and what it really takes to be in a healthy relationship.

Now, as a certified Diamond Process™ Transformational Life Coach, I am dedicated to helping others create the lasting, fulfilling relationships they want by first learning to fully love and accept themselves. I'm also an award-winning speaker featured on Transformational Talk Radio and creator of the transformative program, Freedom from Codependency: The Self-Love Solution™.

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So, if you're trying to figure out if you can transform your relationship, or you're trying to attract a new one... what you need to know is

the way that happens is from the inside out, when we release the old patterns and limiting beliefs that are no longer serving us.

Real clarity emerges as a natural outcome of us getting into right relationship with ourselves and in alignment with our truth. When we can be in loving relationship with ourselves, and be our own best partner, that sets the stage for us to create our most loving, fulfilling relationships.